I've been seeing someone for 18 months. It's fun, he's spontaneous and open with me. The thing is, the man I was seeing before (completely wrong for me) enraptured me. We would kiss for half an hour and I would be mesmerised - but he was a huge a-hole - however, he always excited me.
The new man loves sex, loves me, but that mad tingly feeling is not there. Kissing is a quick prelude to sex which is wild and lovely but never really loving sex and doesn't turn me on the way the unimportant last bf did.
My question is, does this really matter. That chemistry thing is so all-consuming, as most of you know. But am I kidding myself that this is a long-term thing if its not really there? Does it really matter? I mean, I would love to have that ability to kiss BF for half an hour and be in heaven, but as we have a great time together, does this matter? How many of you haven't had this, but still made a future together?
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Love his company but no massive spark
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fizzfiend · 17/02/2014 04:15
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