After years of all sorts of abuse
I came to conclusion that there is so little you can do to stop abuser
Next quite scary conclusion is that he actually did the job he managed to break me down
I really didn't realize how big power he still have got over me
One daft email from him can put me back in to pices!!!
I couldn't believe myself
Out from nowhere another accusation about the most silly thing
And I'm crying and shaking half of day
I wish someone could really really stop him
He did it a few times over the last a few months
He chosen the perfect days for me ( important for me)
And crushed me step by step aiming in most sensitive points
I know I'm the one to blame for all this situation I should rapport his abuse to police but I've try a few times well clearly not hard enough!!
The big dilemma also is no evidence or whatsoever so obviously who you gonna believe
But the biggest disappointment is knowledge that it will never end
And again my foult I've shouldn't stayed when it started I should do things so much earlier so me being in such fragile stage it's only my foult
So now when he "got" me exactly where he want he can just play me like a pice of...
But now obviously he is not making any crime he is just playing teasing and puting down world by word!
Since I've left I really went trugh so many stages including so much anger for letting myself down in big style
Now it is just uncontrolled sadness that there is nothing to stop him that it will never end!!
Please forgive me my rant maybe just treat it as message to women who are being abused
Please do not stay with your abuser
Leave at the first sign of any sort of abuse
It won't change it won't get better
It will become more and more intensive
Leave asap!
Do not put yourself in position where you left trying your best to pull up everything back together you are starting to being happy safe when you finally see all those small daft steps are working and you can see it in thoes around you and then
one word call name tines stupid thing will make feel that hey you wrong again
He can play you all time along
and there is no low nothing what makes him stop
I'm so angry at myself again I've worked so hard to be in place I'm now I've put myself on line so many times I've risked my health again made so many enemies just to put myself right
and there you go again
He would say jump!!
and I'm jumping
And I can just imagine he is sitting there laughing clapping his dirty hands
Planing what next and how to do it to not being caught
well I have to admit a very clever calculated person
He managed accuse me for abusing him because someone told me to ask him!!!
Twice
So well it's pretty good game for him
He must really have good fun!!!
I'm sorry for such long rant
but I've got so much anger in me
disappointment and disgust
It does looks like I've been victim of the conman a real professional!
So please do not do the same mistakes if you are in similar situation
Ok rant over
I'm trying to get back on my feet again but unfortunately it is not easy
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blameitonmyaddbaby · 10/02/2014 21:54
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