I'm a recovering alcoholic, was in a relationship for 10 years, married for five.
apparently, all my husband ever wanted was for me to stop drinking. so, I went into AA and loved it immediately. meetings 5-7 times a week and sober.
and then it began. he would go out drinking 4 nights a week, and not come home til 3/4 am. i have since found out he has a new woman, but they have 'done the decent thing' and not gone public since i moved out, which was just over a week ago.
my heart is broken. i have a fabulous new place, but i loathe it. all i can think of is that i did what he wanted - went into recovery and he immediately ditched me. he doesn't see that he's done anything wrong. the previous 18 months were, admittedly, horrible - i was hospitalised (psych unit) for a month, then limped along until a serious suicide attempt last September. i have a nearly-14-year-old DD who chose to live with her dad until said attempt last year.
so here I am. it's only been 6 weeks since we decided to split and he has a new girlfriend. i know i caused all this. my daughter has disclosed that she wasn't happy with our life as ex-h was stroppy and unreasonable. i know i'm better off without him, and i know the pain i caused him. but aren't marriage vows in sickness and in health? i just feel utterly dumped and the pain is unbearable.
hand holding or arse kicking. over to you.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
I don't know where I'm going with this.
10 replies
exWifebeginsat40 · 08/02/2014 10:29
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.