DP and I have just become engaged. I asked him today if we could tell his mum before he goes away for the week and I'll tell mine. I also suggested we tell our kids (his two and my two, all over the age of 13). Anyway he said he's nervous about telling people - this got my back up straight away but then he goes on to say he's nervous about people's reactions, his family thinking he's making 'another' mistake, his kids being upset that he's not getting back with their mother (they've been separated 3 years, divorced for 2! I wasn't OW) and he's worried about work colleagues taking the piss and gossiping.
I'm really quite angry at him, why does he care so much about what people think and why is he turning our engagement into a heap of complicated stress? Why can't we just announce it and be happy? It's making me paranoid that if certain people are not happy about it he won't take much persuading to change his mind!
Another thing he said was that it's a big deal to announce to the world that you're settling down - well we've been together two years, living together etc - surely that's a given by now?!
Or am I just being touche?
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Am I in the right in being pissed off with DP over engagement announcement?
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DisgruntledBryde · 05/02/2014 18:00
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