My OH physically attacked me whilst I was holding our child. He had pushed and hit my head against the wall and I had ran out of the house as fast as I could to get help. He finally left my house the next day and has only returned twice for a couple of hours each time to see my child. Since that day he has constantly text and harrassed me saying he did not do anything and it was me that attacked him (apparently according to him he has taken pictures of a couple of scratches he had when I was protecting my child and myself, I never thought of taking pictures of my bruises!). The texts and phone calls and conversations when he visits are all about how he has nothing, he wants everything I have of value so he can sell them for himself, how I am selfish and then he changes and says he wants us to get back together and that it was only a one off emotional burst.
To cut this short as I was advised to report that day to the police which I did and also asked them not to contact him as he may get aggressive. I later got a call saying they interviewed him and that there were no charges as insufficient evidence but he stated that I unprovoked jumped on him and attacked him. I am currently pregnant and no fit state to jump around!!
He originally said he will leave my child and I alone and never see us again but now he is demanding to take him away for long periods of time. My child is 18months old. I suggested that this is probably not the right time to do this at their age but he insists as apparently it is not fair as I have him living with me. I am frightened that he may hurt my child again or even worse not look after them properly as when he visited (we never lived together he came up some weekends) he could not be bothered to fully care for them as he had worked all week, regardless of me working all week too. He also is tight with his money and doesn't like to spend (I have now payments coming through the CSA), as an example he didn't want to pay for nappies but was happy to go out and buy designer gear for himself.
So far I have let him see my child but only at my place and with supervision. Do I have to let him take them away for periods of time or can I insist that they are supervised visits due to the age and the fact that my child has always been with me and never spent over night stays away from me?
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