suspect dh is upto something? how can I find out what?

[superconfused10]

DH is very clingy to his phone. But last night we stayed over at friends and he deliberately left his phone at home. said he didn't need it. The only times he leaves phone lying around is when the battery is dead. Also there is no search or browser history on his laptop never leaves his fb account open or emails. Basically very secretive. Only been married since March and he is very insecure and our relationship is very bad at the moment. There is other behaviour also but don't really want to go into it all. Please can you help me. I would like to check his phone and fb account but don't know how. Any ideas?

[Fairenuff]

When you get home take his phone and hide it somewhere. Then ask him for his password because you want to check his messages. If he has nothing to hide he'll agree.

[ImperialBlether]

Hmmm it doesn't sound good, does it?

I suppose the thing is, if the relationship is very bad, do you want to stay with him?

Do you have children together?

Do you have a friend/family member with a key who could go to your house and look at the phone?

I wonder why he left it at home - that sounds very strange.

[RollerCola]

Sorry, but my husband did this and it turned out he'd been having numerous text/online affairs.

He never let his phone out of his sight, and when he did put it down it was over on a far window ledge to charge, and was always on silent.

The difference between him & my new partner is unreal - new man sits reading his texts right next to me, even shows me some. He reads facebook next to me too, no password, no secrecy at all.

Not sure if you want to know more but if you do, get hold of it & have a good search. Secrecy like this is not good. Sorry you're having to deal with this, I know how horrible it is.

[superconfused10]

Thanks for the replies. I know its not looking good. no kids but I would just like proof before I up and leave.

[SanityClause]

If the relationship is bad, what other reason do you need?

If you made a mistake in marrying him, you don't need to POV he has been unfaithful, just say its not working, and split as amicably as you can.

[SanityClause]

Prove, not POV.

[Buzzardisnotina4birdroast]

Might it be that he is accessing porn on his phone and doesn't want you to see? Have you reason to suspect there is something dubious about his hiding his phone?
My dh had googled a lot of my Christmas presents on his phone and wouldn't want me to see searches etc. (did anyway as he had used my Amazon account but that's irrelevant)
You seem to have knowledge of something?

[EllaFitzgerald]

If you've got to the stage where you're looking for evidence to prove that he's done something, then I think you already know what you need to do, especially if there's more to it than you've posted.

It's been less than a year of marriage and you don't trust him at all. What would getting proof achieve?