Please, I think I need a good kick up the backside so I know I'm in the right place
Mil has now not seem our dc (9,5 and 1yr) (oldest 2 are dh step kids, youngest is his) for nearly a year over a row that I wouldn't let the baby go overnight at 2 weeks old. She is still adamant it's me in the wrong.
2 months ago I text her, and asked her to come up to see the kids. 10 mins later she was oh so enthusiastically there. It went GREAT! Seriously. I invited her out a few times, she politely declined. Then as dd 1st birthday approached, she informed dh she can't bare to be in the same room as me so won't be seeing ANY of the kids. She refused her party invite and didn't even send her a card on her first birthday
2 months later, more family members are removing and blocking me from Facebook because mil is SO upset, Im to be excluded from the whole family. I know Fb is sad, but it's the spite of it that hurts
Dh wants a relationship with his mum, which I respect (but don't understand) but I'm struggling with letting go of this hurt.
Everytime we talk about it, it's a huge emotional row because I don't understand why everyone (or her for that matter) can cut 3 kids out of their lives, rather than bury a petty row. Most family members were never even involved in the row, but I'm excluded everywhere.
I'm really struggling to let go. Feel like I need to be picture perfect to all their pettiness, whilst they get to act like twats x
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Joanne279 · 21/11/2013 20:26
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