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How do I manage ex's behaviour?

(29 Posts)
Gretagumbo Sat 19-Oct-13 22:24:35

I ended the relationship due to man child syndrome & poor interaction with his son. We had been together 12 ish years and have a 19month old son.

I have tried to be civil as I want him to have a relationship with his son. I keep getting texts several times a week with the common themes of:
I have ruined his life
I am heartless
I used him to have a baby
I've left him with nothing
He is failing his course
He has no one to turn to
I've ruined his self esteem

I have answered to say that I won't reply to these texts but only to those about practical arrangements about our son.
I just feel really angry that he is creating a new reality about the reasons for the end of our relationship but I have resisted letting rip because I don't want to kick him whilst he is down and I want to maintain good links for sake of ds.
Just finding this trickle of poison a bit wearing sad

PAsSweetOrangeLurve Sun 20-Oct-13 09:30:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lweji Sun 20-Oct-13 09:40:10

Also a cocklodger is a lodger who pays with his cock. Basically, he offers nothing to the household except his presence and bed activities. He lives off you.

I see a man child more like someone who expects to be mothered. He may well be employed and play with the children, but that's where his contribution to the household ends. He is not capable of any house work, his interests are paramount and almost expects to be told off, rather than discuss issues.

BasilBabyEater Sun 20-Oct-13 12:02:04

And of course, you can get a combination of the 2 - a cocklodger and a man-child in one body.

LOL at this forensic analysis of the differences and similarities between cocklodgers and man-children.

It should be an essay title in PHSE, so that girls of the future recognise the symptoms.

"Compare and contrast the characteristics of the man-child versus the cocklodger, with reference to popular culture and media representation."

Gretagumbo Sun 20-Oct-13 14:55:01

For sure, given the symptoms, my specimen had elements of both.

Love the idea of taking this concept into the academic field. PHD in cocklodgerdom smile

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