After a rocky few months with my DP, punctuated by me finding him up to lots of no good on the internet (dating sites, propositioning an ex), I have finally found the motherlode of internet scumbaggery.
It means that I will have to break up with him. There can be no going back from what I've found.
However rather than just slinging him out I feel I must confront him for my own peace of mind. But I also know that this will lead to a stream of lies pouring forth from his lying bastard mouth which will make me doubt myself. I keep going over and over the possible explanations for what he's been up to, trying to justify it, trying to imagine the ways in which he might have done this accidentally or out of curiousity. So I know I will be vulnerable to any bullshit excuse. I know it's ridiculous but it's so mindbending when the person you've lived with for years turns out to be someone you never knew at all.
So I'd like some tips please on the best method of confronting this lying shitbag and minismising the gaslighting. I believe he has a secret email account and my plan is to make him log into it in front of me and hand over all devices. What I do from there I'm not sure. I've learned a lot on here about gathering evidence etc. Is there a particular thing I need to do or prepare? I don't want to make some stupid elementary mistake.
I feel like I am a gas cooker about to explode. I have told one absolutely trusted friend to get her advice. She is 100% LTB - and without even bothering to give him an explanation. The worst thing is that I will probably never be able to tell anyone else, including all my family, about this. I want to scream.
I am just holding onto the idea that I will have dodged one almighty bullet when this is over.
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Confronting a lying bastard - advice and handholding please
leavingthebastard · 07/10/2013 16:47
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