This is really starting to piss me off with my relationship with DP. I am a regular but have name changed as DP knows my normal posting name.
I know this problem isnt as serious as others but it is making start to doubt my future with DP. We have been together nearly 20 years and have DC's.
Anyway, I have been catching DP out with little white lies, just really stupid ones. I have not pulled him up on any of them yet.
Examples - he has a mate who I cannot stand but he goes to the pub with him weekly. This mate has a habit of promising then instead of saying he cant make it he vanishes off the face of the earth till after the time of the promise. He promised to go somewhere with DP for a sport they both like. However, friend did his vanishing trick and DP was really annoyed as he had to go alone. DP said he was going to ignore the friend and for the next 3 or 4 days when i asked if he had spoken to friend he said he hadnt. On checking the phone bill he had been texting the friend on the night of the event (several times) and had been in contact all the other days.
If this friend wants to go to the pub, DP says he has just asked etc, but when speaking to the friends wife it was all planned a couple of days before.
I have a parking space at work (we work in the same place) and when I am on annual leave I let my friends park in it as the parking spaces are at a premium. A girl that DP is very friendly with at work was parked in my space once and DP causually mentioned that he had told her ages ago that if the space was free she could park in it.(We were on annual leave but had gone into the office to collect something). when I spoke to the girl (just in passing) she mentioned that DP had text her on the Monday offering her the space for the week. Again, he lied.
He went away on a day trip for work, was moaning about it, didnt want to go, couldnt get out of it etc, but when speaking to others at work he was apparently well up for it, couldnt wait to go blah blah blah.
I dont know why he lies as it is no skin of my nose if he contacts his friend and gets let down by him. I now wonder how many other lies does he tell me. I am too trusting, I believe everything he tells me then feel really ashamed when i discover it is a lie.
i havent pulled him up on anything as it looks like I am snooping and spying on him. How can I say to him that I know he texted his friend as I saw the phone bill. (phone bill is in my name).
What else is he lying about?
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BadlyShavedYeti · 07/10/2013 10:01
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