H & I agreed to separate in July, although at first he refused to move out (wanting me to pay him his share first) Eventually agreed to move out 2 weeks ago.
Although it was a mutual decision and us both declaring there was no one else involved, the day before he left I discovered hundreds of messages between him and another woman which had been going on for much longer than our agreed separation. I confronted him, he denied. I didn't ask for details but it was clear that they'd either slept together or we're planning to v soon.
This was at least the 3rd time I'd caught him out with text affairs over the years. I suspect there were many more. His only excuse is that he didn't feel 'wanted' in our marriage. I have now filed for divorce.
In the 2 weeks he's been gone he hasn't left me alone. He's been back to the house loads of times 'to collect some stuff' & to 'see the children' but each time he just spends the whole time complaining about things (things broken in his flat, he can't sleep, money etc etc) He even came round to see dd when I was out & had a rest on the settee because he was so tired. He also calls me a lot to tell me 'where he's up to' with finances etc.
I really need to not see him. I feel so much better when he's not around. The atmosphere at home is happy, no more tension etc. and then he comes round again
I know he needs to see the kids and I will always have to have contact with him. For the time being the house is still half his as well but I really don't want him to keep coming round. He has treated me like shit for years & I hate him. I want to move on but it's like he's still not left.
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RollerCola · 05/10/2013 11:33
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