Been married to my DH for 8 yrs have 2 DCs of 7 and 5. Since the first baby came along I realised there is something bit diff about him and the way he copes with stress etc. he is constantly miserable and every thing has to be 100 per cent perfect at all times. He can't cope with noise and his decisions he makes are so drastic. He has a weird concept of rules as well he follows every rule as you should and is extremely considerate of other people in the community, actually overly considerate and he gets pissed off because he isn't treated the way he treats people. For example he won't have a BBQ in the garden as it isn't fair on the neighbours as it might smoke out their garden and he doesn't like the children playing outside in case the neighbours don'tike the noise then gets really annoyed when the dogs next door bark!! He hates young people but does lots of community work for the over 70's because be can relate to them. To cut a long story short he Is just a boring miserable old man and he obviously on the autistic spectrum this has been made more apparent now as my son is current going through the diagnosis phase for aspergers. The house is now going on the market as he doesn't like the dogs next door. We have moved twice before once because he didn't like living next door to Chavs (his words!!) just a normal family in my eyes and the second time because he could hear the people next door opening their fridge and putting plugs in ( I couldn't). Trouble is I am extremely laid back and nothing much phases me or pisses me off so we complete opposites. He wants to move to biddy land where everyone is considerate of each other and there will be no noise of kids or dogs but I don't want to move with him. I am happy where I am and always doing stuff to keep him happy. Do I suggest we go our seperate ways? I could become me again and not have to worry about keeping the house pristine and I could have a laugh but is his mean on him!!
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peppajay · 29/09/2013 08:53
If the choice is following this man around being his personal cheer-leader and therapist or going your separate ways then for goodness sake save yourself. If you're both in your thirties... (guessing).. you could have another 50 years of this and IME people don't get more tolerant with age. 
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