Disclaimer: I know this is minor in comparison to what a lot of people on this board are going through, but it's really wrecking my head.
DH and I have been married for 2.5 years. I have 2 DDs from a previous marriage who are 15 and 17. This time last year their DF was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died in May this year. This was a terrible time for my daughters, and I poured everything I had into supporting them. My DH was wonderful. He was calm, supportive of all of us and he just got it right, you know? He was there for the girls but not in a pushy, 'it's ok because you have me' way - he respected their feelings and what they were going through. he took time off work right at the end, drove us all to see him every day for the last two weeks (2 hrs each way, plus visiting time) He looked after me when my heart was breaking for my daughters and was strong for me when all my strength had gone.
My DDs are slowly beginning to move forward - eldest doing A Levels, youngest in her GCSE year. They're much more together now, even though there are still times when they're in pieces. So things are beginning to go back to normal. Why then do I not want him near me? I honestly can't remember the last time we had sex (months ago), we're still affectionate (I make myself hug him) but I just want to be left alone. He's completely respectful of this, has never once pushed me, pressured me or anything. Basically he's a textbook husband, works hard, supports me (I'm starting my final year of a degree), pulls his weight with chores, is lovely with my DDs. We have so much in common, shared values, all the things you need to make a marriage good and healthy.
WTAF is wrong with me? I'm so scared that eventually he'll get sick of me being this way, that his patience will run out, or even that by the time I stop feeling this way, it'll be too late and the chasm will be too big to get over. I'm just scared and upset and I want to stop feeling like this but I don't know how.
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ElleMcFearsome · 24/09/2013 09:08
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