to pick up a fight

[witheaero]

I read something a while ago and it made me
wonder

Some people are fighters or people fight when they have to?

Is "fighting" a foult or positive attribute

And finally what to do in situation when you would get a label as "fighting moany bitch"

When you not one
I presume when you already get opinion like that there is nothing else you can do

I know my post doesnt make a lot of sense but Im curious what are your opinions abot it

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

If you are labelled as a 'fighting moany bitch' you cut whoever said it out of your life because they are verbally abusive.

Everyone is entitled to assert themselves and being assertive is a positive attribute. IME it's only necessary to be assertive when circumstances require it. Women have been handicapped for years because, when they do assert themselves (or they're ambitious or they have opinions or particular values), they are given offensive names... 'ball breaker', 'high maintenance', 'battle-axe', 'bitch'. Men who assert themselves are regarded much more positively ... 'strong', 'no-nonsense', 'forthright'.

Having said that you'd have to define 'fighting'. Fighting sounds like aggression rather than assertion and aggression is rarely appropriate

[ImperialBlether]

If you're called a fighting moaning bitch, it's more than likely because you won't agree to do exactly what someone else demands. It's also more than likely that this person's demands are unreasonable.

[witheaero]

Fighting not in aggression meaning

Being assertvie for some people is also the wrong thing to do

"Me" being assertive took me once in the wrong direction

....so is a little bit like "run"
I can hardly speak I understand how you cant rise your voice to say..."

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Sorry?

[JessicaBeatriceFletcher]

This is the same OP who did the unintelligible birthday present thread a little earlier

[Fairenuff]

Are you ok op?

[witheaero]

Shocked kind of

[Fairenuff]

What has happened?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

"Being assertvie for some people is also the wrong thing to do"

It's almost never the wrong thing to do. Unless someone is pointing a gun at your head, that is. Even then, wouldn't it better to exit this world with your self-respect intact?

Live one day as a lion rather than fifty years as a sheep.