Online dating and feeling like an idiot

[spangledboots]

I'm going to try and condense this as much as possible! Posting because a) I feel really stupid and b) I don't want this to happen to anyone else

I've done a bit of online dating over the past year or so and it's all just been a bit of fun until a couple of months ago when I 'met' a guy called Tim. He seemed nice and although I played it fairly cool after a few weeks/a month I realised we had a lot in common. One issue was that he refused to send me a photo and a couple of times we planned to meet up and he cancelled. Read an article earlier about women who'd been duped on online dating sites so I thought I'd do a bit of googling on the two images I did have of 'Tim' from his dating profile. Much to my horror (although I kind of expected this tbh :( ) he's just taken the photos from the internet! God knows who this 'Tim' guy really is. I feel like a total idiot. He went on holiday a week ago and isn't back for another week which is probably good because he won't be pestering me for a while so I can 'move on'.

Very tempted to invite an old flame over tonight...bad idea?

[spangledboots]

By 'old flame' I mean someone I used to mess around a bit with, not someone I had feelings for. I guess you're right, I shouldn't feel the need to have any man here.

I'll go have a look at the thread. I just feel so stupid...I need to snap out of thinking of 'him' as the person he portrayed himself to be. shakes self

[missbopeep]

Maybe you should just have some time alone for a while? It's your call of course, but could you be 'using' the guy you used to 'mess around with'- can't be good for him to play 2nd fiddle - unless it's a reciprocal arrangement?

[spangledboots]

Thanks BloomingRose...there's definitely more to life than men! That's why I feel so silly.

Missbopeep - it's a reciprocal arrangement with the other guy.

[JaceyBee]

Well, if it was me I'd invite him over. If its honest, no strings fun where's the harm? Forget the Internet douchebag!