'Tomorrow is a family day'

[Souredstones]

According to 'd' h. Sadly he didn't mean us, the family he created. He meant pissing it up in the pub with his dad for 3 hours like he does every fucking weekend. He works saturdays, I work full weeks, Sundays are the only chance we can spend time together only he never chooses us telling me that Sundays are 'family days'

We've just had a massive row about it, again, and again he stated that Sundays are for family.

I'm 5 weeks pregnant, already morning sickness has kicked in and I'm in a lot of pain with stomach cramps and pulling.

He doesn't care and has stropped off to bed.

I don't know what to do. All I can think is to take the kids out tomorrow, only, if I'm like today I'm going to be throwing up til after lunch and will need him to come and help. I have no desire to sit in a pub with a man I can't stand (fil) watching everyone get pissed while i manage bored kids without help while feeling rough, which 'h' thinks is an acceptable alternative.

[FoundAChopinLizt]

Poor you, how many dcs have you got? Has he always been like this? Surely he could see his dad without involving a day in the pub?

[TurnipCake]

OP, his 'family' to him is the booze by the sounds of it, labelling it family is just a front. I'm sorry to read of you going through this.

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

Are you not his family? How hurtful

What is MIL like? Could she speak to FIL to encourage him not to encourage your H to go to the pub and spend time with his....er....,family?! Has he got form for this - has he been doing it for years?

He sounds like a twatbadger, TBH. Sympathies.

[Lweji]

What time is he leaving to the pub?

Can you make it family day and take off on your own to a relative before he leaves for the pub?

Or just a "me" day?

[Souredstones]

His dad shouts jump h says how high. He's divorced from mil and thinks nothing of ditching h if he has better plans. They tend to meet at 1 and drink to 3.30 so rules any family time out from any of the day because fil rings hourly from 10 asking if he's going to the pub then when he comes home he's drunk.

[Lweji]

Then, wake up early and take off. Return for dinner.

[Souredstones]

Small problem with that if I'm throwing up like I was this morning. Probably not safe to drive lol

[BackforGood]

and you put up with this because........... ?

[SolidGoldBrass]

I've just ha a look at one of your other threads. Your H is a prick who thinks women are men's property and domestic servants. It's not going to get better. I would honestly advise doing some research into the practicalities of ending the relationship.

[Souredstones]

I don't know any more

[exoticfruits]

What are you actually getting from this relationship? A good starting question. Do you want to continue?