I am in a relationship with my partner of 5 years. When I met him, he was. A breath of fresh air compared to the usual idiot men I often indulged in. After a short while he showed his true colours; disagreeing with everything I said, jealous of friends, falling out with me on nights out and on one occasion dragging me across the room in a headlock. After this incident we broke up. A month later I found out I was pregnant. We got back together and decI ded to try to give it a go on the understanding he would address his issues. We moved in together and throughout my pregnancy there were phases where it was good, also where it was not so good. When I had our daughter my partner left me to do everything and said that it was my fault he couldn't help because I was breast-feeding. I focussed on my daughter to get throughthis time. I live very far from my family. our
daughter is now 2 and my partner has become a fantastic Dad to both our daughter and to his son from a previous relationship. He is also, for the most part, a veryloving and kind boyfriend. He still loses his temper from time to time but nothing like he used to.
My problem is that I'm not in love with him anymore. Theway he had been in the past eats away at me and I could never allow myself to be pregnant with him again . I want to leave but the guilt of leaving this man who has tried so hard to change for me kills me. I like him and we get on well, I can't bear the thought of taking our daughter away from him and then him having 2 children that he doesn't live with. He suffers from depression and although ishouldn't feel responsible for that, I feel terrible guilt over what it would do to him if I left.
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CherryCherryT · 21/05/2013 09:30
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