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I still fancy exp

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Ikeameatballs · 28/04/2013 21:39

In a nutshell that's it. I told him it was over 10weeks ago and he moved out.
I still see him quite a bit because he is picking up the dc etc.
I really, really physically miss him. I miss having a cuddle and being held, I miss the smell of him, I see him and really fancy him. I remember lovely sex with him, although none for soon long when we were together.
It is hard not to act in some way even though I know that a great deal of why he appears so attractive to me now is because I do not witness his twatish behaviour every day!

Aaargh!!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 29/04/2013 10:27

Remind yourself that you don't miss 'him'. You miss something more general which is male companionship, a physical relationship, intimacy etc. Very important therefore to start carving out a social life for yourself and keeping yourself busy. Not dating per se but just finding a more constructive outlet for your energy (sexual or otherwise). Good luck

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Poohbearandpiglet · 29/04/2013 14:06

Spot on Corgito.

I have the same issue (and have just started a thread about dating again!), I also asked xP to leave and it was the right thing to do for all of us especially DC, but god there are days I miss him so much; his smell, cuddles, simply just having someone there to keep me company on the sofa! So, I know how you feel.
What you said about missing him more because of not witnessing the twatish behaviour is very poigniant!

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Crinkle77 · 29/04/2013 18:56

so why did you finish with him then?

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Crinkle77 · 29/04/2013 18:57

sorry skim read and missed the last bit

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Ikeameatballs · 29/04/2013 21:32

I am going to keep busy this weekend!!

I know that this sounds superficial but I think we got together because of a really strong attraction to each other and now even though it seems clear that in other ways we are not suited as a couple that remains.

I def need to find things to do when he has the dc, we need to sort out the house so that it is legally only mine, then I can get the tester pots out and do some decorating which will give me something productive to occupy me.

I have also considered dating again but I don't really think that's the answer for me at the moment. I don't feel ready at all and it wouldn't be fair to anyone.