Hi i really could do with some help. My diabetic alcoholic husband left me and 2 little girls in Jan. There is a massive back story and multiple safety issues which are driving me crazy with worry. I posted about him here before almost exactly 3 years ago as Mrs Karpet
My most pressing one atm is the financials for the divorce though. Husband was the money manager in relationship and I did everything else (everything).
My solicitor asked for a massive pile of documents which I have managed to amass but I am struggling with the household income/expenditure form.
I initially just put down my bills etc as outgoings but downloaded a template with all sorts on it like holidays,days out, haircuts,clothes budget, etc etc. Apparently I need to put down how much I spend/need for everything I will need to pay out for me and the girls in the future so that our financial needs can be worked out, have I got this right? My problem is I genuinely have no idea. I actually try to spend very little at all,I have always used charity shops and hand me downs for the girls, hardly buy things for myself,we go without 'stuff' we don't need,I shop thriftily for essentials.
I have no idea what a reasonable amount to put for these categories would be. I don't want to lose out by the fact that I am careful with money when he has the opposite attitude to money. If he wants something he wants it now,even when we didn't have the money for it he amassed huge loan and credit card debts to get what he wanted. No delayed gratification or going without for him.
Do I just guess?
And does the final outgoing amount have to be less than what my current income is or can it be more?
Any insight or advice would be very helpful Thank you
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Uppatea · 28/04/2013 12:30
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