H woke me up last night...

[BourbonBiscuits]

...for sex, which is not unusual. I generally get in the mood really quickly in those circumstances, I suppose because while he's not certain if I'm awake or not, it's all about me. (And while I'm still half asleep I'm quite happy with that.)

Last night, though, I noticed that as soon as I was awake enough to pay some attention to him, there was a total switch so that it was all about him. Which, ok, might be fair given what I was happy with just before, but did feel rather abrupt. He got really into things and I got less and less so. He had a great time, but with very little help from me IYSWIM. Afterwards he was a bit embarrassed and I wasn't much help, really, as I could see why and I think I was starting to feel annoyed for being woken up!

He does have a tendency to be a bit self-absorbed, in and out of the bedroom, but I felt this took it to a new level. I'm wondering if this seems ok to others?

[BOF]

Have you spoken to him about it? It sounds like it would be a good idea.

[NorthernLurker]

Each to their own but if I was being woken for sex on a regular basis by another person rather than it being mutual wakings or sometimes one and sometimes the other, I would be wondering how much of a partner deserving of respect I was and how much a convenience for him to get his end away. Sleep is quite important to our well being after all.

[GirlWiththeLionHeart]

Oh yeah been here. DP used to wake me and literally clamber on top and start shagging, horrible and grim :( he was asleep though but could half remember the next day and would be embarrassed.

Whenever he tries it now I just stop him and say no because there's nothing in it for me so I would rather sleep.

[GirlWiththeLionHeart]

Would be nice to be woken by something nice for me, but that never happened.