Just a bit of advice please. My sons are 3 and 5 and I divorced their middle eastern dad this year after a very turbulent relationship. Xh tells my mum his future is finished because I divorced him, he cannot return to his homeland and family divorced. Very different from what he tells me (his brother divorced his wife as she had halitosis!), he tells me he can return there (funny that, as he claimed asylum here because of the risk to his life in Iran!) and start a new life. Here's hoping he does, he again yesterday was yelling at me on the phone that he will disappear soon and the boys will have to get used to it as he will not financially support them or stay in touch.
I am aware that some of this may be hot air, but I would never say anything like that, regarding the children, even in anger.
What I want advice on is whether I should get legally proactive regarding the chance of him disappearing. I'm wondering if I need to try and get him to agree to sign all parental responsibility to me? This might seem pointless, but I was thinking things like name changes. I want to revert to my maiden name (married name very iranian and hard to spell) and my 5 year old says he wants to have my maiden name too. I think this would be difficult to do, but if xh disappears, it would be impossible.
This probably sounds like I am worrying about nothing, but 5 yr old is just being diagnosed with high functioning autism, so can get obsessive about things. Any ideas about what I should do and if I should / not be preparing dc for dad going? He sees them once a week for four hours, and is a classic unlucky, victim, entitled, chauvinistic mentality.
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Dcs dad says is disappearing to Middle East ..how to handle this?
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DippyDoohDahDay · 25/04/2013 10:24
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