Yesterday something happened. I know this isn?t normal. I?ll try to be brief. I would love to get some feedback and suggestions from mners.
Yesterday evening I got home around 8 :15pm. DH was cooking. We chatted as he continued preparing two other dishes. I helped him a bit with the cooking and made a salad.
DD (17) came home at 9pm as had been agreed with her. I brought the food that was ready into the dining room and served DD with salad and another dish that was ready. DH continued with the cooking ? one dish that only he would eat was not quite finished. DD and I were chatting about her day and what she is going to do next. I think it is important to sit with the children when they are eating. I think it is even better if the whole family eats together. DH doesn?t seem to share that view, and often waits until everyone has finished before he begins eating; or sometimes he eats early even before I get home. On this occasion, the dish that he wanted to eat wasn't quite ready and I thought nothing of it.
Yesterday, whilst sitting with DD, I also started eating the salad that I had made and a bit of the chicken. DH stormed in and said some nasty things. His complaint was that he had been cooking all evening and was not included in the meal. This went on for a bit and then he went back to the kitchen. I also went back into the kitchen and began clearing up.
Then a text arrived from DS2, which DH read aloud to me. We then started chatting about DS2?s wonderful achievements and related things, which is one of DH?s favourite topics of conversation.
DHs behaviour yesterday was odd in the way that he flipped from nice to nasty and back again so quickly. It is hard to predict how he is going to behave and whether something will make him flip. He doesn?t usually flip back to good behaviour so quickly. Except that he didn?t eat anything but slept on the sofa.
This morning he has said that he doesn?t want to cook any more for the family, that I should make my own food and not eat what he makes, and that he doesn?t want to eat anything I make. He didn?t eat the breakfast I had made or drink the coffee.
Things like this happen a lot. When the DCs were small and I was picking them up after their evening activities, they would always ask whether daddy is in a bad mood. I know it isn?t normal but I cannot make sense of it. Can anyone help me? For a start, what is ?normal? in terms of eating? And if your DH/DP wants to eat different foods at different times, how do you cope?
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Another outburst from DH – why does his behaviour vary so much ?
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ConfusedButNotInsane · 24/04/2013 10:38
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