Before i begin i must say he is a wonderful person who over the years has helped me achieve my degree by working full time, so i dont mean to make him sound as if he is lazy and cant be bothered with work, its not that at all.
For 13 years he worked in a firm where he was bullied by the bosses, he put up woith so much abuse that eventually 1 boss turned most of the workforce against him to the point he was a happy go luck always confident person and reduced him to a crying wreck, he would come home, had no interest in anything apart from the x box, that was his escapism. Before this he had been an apprentice at a factory where he learnt his skills, again the foreman had bullied him to the point he could no longer go to work and left 3 months before his apprenticeship was completed - i dont know the full details but from what ive heard from his family he was literally on the brink of doing something stupid so it was best that he eleft the place.
So finally last year i fell pregnant, id just set up my own business and was absolutely terrified at the prospect of being a parent, he pulled me through it even with all this crap going on at work (most which he has still kept hidden), i had out lovely son in june and a month later he was basically forced out of work as they cut his hours down to 2 a week and said they no longer had that position vacant. He was destroyed.
He happened to bump into an old friend from this firm who had left many years ago who said he could get him into thie company he was with, without an interview he was offered the job through his experience alone, and he was picking himself up again while i struggled with slight post natal depression and not fomring a bond with the baby (he was in incubator for first few wks of his life with pneumonia so the bond took me a little longer) but since he begun this so called friend has been abusing him verbally to the point it cam to full blows this week and he was shouting at dp in front of everyone telling him he was a prick and started punching him, instead of hitting back dp walked up to the manager who was watching it all and said sorry i cant work here anymore and came home.
That was yesterday and i am really really scared, jobs are scarse and while im not saying he is the easiest person to work with (a perfectionistm so likes to take little more time getting this correct, which can be annoying to others) i think he could have handled this situation a lot better although put with his past of bullying in the workplace i can see it wasnt easy for him to be in that situation again.
I just dont even know what to do or where to start, we cant afford nursery fees so we both cant work at the same time, im thinking i may have to find a full time job which will be hard where we live, sorry this is an essay im just really scared and cant think what to do for the best so thought writing it out would help.
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Dp has walked out of another job....again, im really, really scared.
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queenpickles · 19/04/2013 09:19
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