I can't go into too much detail as once I start typing I end up with a 2 page essay on the back story, but basically my DFs partner cheated on him, moved out and then came grovelling back, he's taken her back with open arms, and claims it is primarily because he feels sorry for her as she keeps going on about how guilty she feels.
At no point has she actually apologised for what she did, and what she put him through. And oddly enough her return coincides with my dad getting a rather large payout from my mum's estate who passed away the week before DF's partner moved out.
I'm trying to make him see that he's being taken for a ride, she has meddled in our family to the point where he won't take calls, email or even text us if she's around, and as she doesn't work, she's always around.
She's shit stirred and tried to make my dad and sister fall out, by snooping in my sisters housemates personal belongings when she visited 3 years ago, and found a note that had a bit of a moan about her behavior (written by my sisters housemate, and left in her own room)
Her entire family knew she was leaving my dad, even though he was supporting her and her dad who was living with them at the time, which i think makes my dad look like a joke to her family, the sad sap who would take anyone even though they don't want him
My dad is very ill, but due to no free healthcare (he lives abroad) he will have to work until he literally falls down dead, but she refuses to get a job and happily spends his money on new gadgets, holidays (to meet new men) and luxuries
I'm prepared to be told to butt out as it's none of my business, but I'm over protective because this is my dad and I can see what it's doing to my sister, we've already lost her mum and now she feels like we've lost our dad too.
Anyway, the things that my dad is relaying to us, about what his partner is saying, just seems to be so close to some of the things that you see on the script that men follow when they cheat, that I was wondering, is there a female version, the script is very male orientated and I wondered if there was a version that women use when they cheat?
I know this is probably the wrong forum to ask this on, but I'm so lost as to what to do.
It's come to the point that either we welcome her into our lives with open arms and forgive her for crewing over my dad, or we lose our dad
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"The Script" is there a female version?
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MTBMummy · 17/04/2013 09:58
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