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I'm struggling to retain a sense of perspective here, I can be very black and white and tend to over react. Last week DH and I had friends over for dinner. DH is a musician and although I hate being centre of attention and don't really have much musical talent we do play together in the privacy of our home, he also has other projects/bands he plays in.
DH has been playing about with some recording equipment, video camera and microphones, for one of his projects. He recorded one of our practises with permission as he wanted to practise using the equipment. Without asking how I felt, he then played this (without warning!) in front of our friends. I commented several times that I felt deeply uncomfortable with this and began to feel physically stressed - sweaty, dry mouth. I know this seems a massive overreaction but being in a room where others are watching me on a screen is like my own personal nightmare. I did say this at the time. I also said that I was so mortified that I felt like I was in the dreaming you're at school in your underwear scenario, to get my point across. This again was completely ignored. I told everyone in the room that i wasn't compliment fishing, i genuinely hated seeing/hearing myself, its a long held anxiety (that DH is well aware of).I was so obviously distressed that our friends stepped in to say he shouldn't screen the practise if I didn't want him to. In the end I left the room to escape the situation. With the bloody thing still playing as I walked away.
I feel like my wishes were completely disregarded and its now difficult to believe DH has any respect for me. He maintains I have nothing to worry about and he just wanted to share it with our friends, although he was decent enough to apologise for how I felt afterwards
Am I overreacting? If I could see another person literally squirming in embarrassment and had the power to stop it, I couldn't continue to watch. He's supposed to be the one person I know I can trust and I don't feel like I can anymore. So upset. He took away my choice and I had to escape my own lounge to relieve my distress. Please help, I don't quite know what to do about this but it isn't getting any smaller in my mind.
Sorry typing on phone, so may not make perfect sense. Thanks for reading.
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please help me get some perspective on this?
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ChangeyMcName · 16/04/2013 13:26
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