I have posted here before about my cheating STBXH who I am divorcing. I thought I was dealing with the split and the financial negotiations really quite well. I even managed two weekends ago to let the children go and see him at the house he shares with the latest love of his life, an Eastern European woman and her baby and even managed to meet her briefly. I was congratulating myself on my calm and on walking away from the situation. But today I have the rage, big time.
Compared with what has gone before, it is trivial. He wants to spend this weekend with the children, EEW and the baby at our weekend house. This makes me see red. The house is a lot more than a weekend house emotionally. We always said that it was our real home and it is where we had planned to retire to. My friends in the village (who are largely the female halves of mutual couple friends) have been a rock for me over the last year.
I feel that it was the last untainted place (he shagged at least one of the women he was "in love" with in our old family home where I now live with the children and I can't ever forget that). I own half that house until the financial settlements are agreed and I don't want her in it. I would actually rather the house was sold to strangers so neither of us can have it.
I can understand the argument that he wants to go there at the weekend so the children have the same experience they are used to, but what he actually wants to do is show her around the house and the village, instal her as his replacement wife there, introduce her to our friends and fuck her in the bed we used to sleep in together and I can't bear it. I have said if he takes her there I am going too!
Am I being over-sensitive? Is this just one more thing where I have to let him have everything his way? I gave in on the children seeing his OW. I really don't see why he can't either have the weekend with them at his house or go to our real home with just the children. This really hurts and I don't know why.
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Don't know why this is the last straw
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3mum · 15/04/2013 21:35
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