Hi all
I just wanted to get some opinions on this. My BF and I split up at the beginning of Jan after 2 years together. It was probably a 'too intense' relationship looking back, and both of us struggled with it at times. I particularly struggled with feelings that he wasnt as committed as me which caused problems as I worried about the future/marriage/babies and talking about these things was all one way and quite honestly sticking pins in my eyes would have been preferable, those conversations were so awkward as he never knew what he wanted. Anyway, we were away for a month over xmas, fantastic holiday, no problems while we were away but the underlying ones hadnt gone so when we got back so I ended it. That was the beginning of Jan.
Now we've since each other once about a month after the split - was v emotional with lots of crying. No real contact since. I've avoided seeing him as I know it would hurt too much.
So its my 33rd bday this weekend. At the end of last week I got an email from reception at work saying he had dropped a bag in for me. I went to get it and found a present for my bday, card and easter egg. Nothing expensive but thoughful things he knew i would like. He didnt hang around to give it to me in person. Reception said he had seemed pretty awkward/nervous.
So what the hell is that all about then? I'm not sure I would give a present to him if it was the other way round as I would think it would complicate things. We arent at the friends stage yet although we did both say we would like to be friends. I really dont want to read too much into it, but still cant quite understand it. It is just because he feels guilty at not being able to give me the things I hoped for in the relationship?
Any thoughts?
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BicBiro · 30/03/2013 16:36
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