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Relationships

Do I bother with colleague who sent me to Coventry?

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Beaverfeaver · 28/02/2013 19:35

A few weeks ago there was an office argument that was started by this colleague and aimed towards me even though it was nothing to do with me.
Others in the office stood up for me and the other person was knocked down a few pegs.

Colleague ever since has sent me to Coventry.
Before this we had been best buddies for about a year.
Colleague is going to be leaving in 2 months and I sometimes think, this is childish, they will be gone in two months, no point worrying over it.

Then I think that should I say something and confront the issue direct with colleague as its playing on my mind a bit and I don't feel I deserve the treatment they are forcing upon me.

What would you do?

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Thistledew · 28/02/2013 19:36

Is travel in your job specification?

Beaverfeaver · 28/02/2013 19:37

Nope!

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CognitiveOverload · 28/02/2013 19:38

If they are not a true friend just leave it as is and move on.

HobKnob · 28/02/2013 19:38

I would just be the bigger person and ignore. 2 months is nothing.

BTW love your turn of phrase, like an Enid Blyton novel!

HecateWhoopass · 28/02/2013 19:40

I think there really is no place for 'best buddies' in a professional environment.

Don't worry about it. Be reasonable, be professional, just do your job. If she responds unprofessionally it will be noticed. In two short months she will be gone and will no longer be your problem.

Beaverfeaver · 28/02/2013 19:42

I thought so.
Thought they were a true friend, but looking back its very one sides, and I can now see that they were more interested in the generosity I shared with them.
Not that it was ever a problem at the time or with any true friend at the time, but they were very take take take, and it seems that sending me to Coventry is showing me that they aren't interested in having me in a friend without the 'stuff' I did/gave/shared.

Other colleagues who see it agree with the above too

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TheFallenMadonna · 28/02/2013 19:46

Do you mean that she is not speaking to you, or that she nobody is talking to you, at her instigation? I thought being sent to Coventry meant the latter. I would try to talk to her.

CognitiveOverload · 28/02/2013 19:49

Forget it and put your energies into people who give something back. Life is too short.

hatgirl · 28/02/2013 19:51

lol at thistledew who must not have had the joys of enid blyton as a child .... although being sent to actual coventry could be considered some sort of punishment by some people i suppose

HecateWhoopass · 28/02/2013 19:55

Yes, being sent to Coventry means organised ignoring by all. or at the very least, by a group.

one woman not speaking to you is just one woman not speaking to you.

Just laugh at her.

Openly.

She'll be gone in two months. Don't let it bother you.

Beaverfeaver · 28/02/2013 19:56

It's just one person not talking to me. Everyone else is more than pleasant.
I'm well respected and liked by others and do a good job.

This other person is much younger, without a good work ethic and other people find them tiresome to say the least

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ImperialBlether · 28/02/2013 20:27

No, it doesn't, Hecate! It's anyone who's ostracising you. I know my Enid Blyton!

HecateWhoopass · 28/02/2013 20:29

ooh, is it? i stand corrected. I have always thought it to require some degree of collusion between people. an agreement to behave as though one person was not visible to them.

hatgirl · 28/02/2013 21:43

my understanding was the same as Hecate's your colleague sounds like a silly girl who has been shot down by your other colleagues. so unprofessional. ignore

Bogeyface · 28/02/2013 21:50

Are any of the people who have witnessed her behaviour, responsible for her reference? If they are then she is being even sillier!

Ignore her, infact, send her to ...... somewhere else beginning with C....Carlisle?!

cjel · 28/02/2013 22:07

Cardiff

Bogeyface · 28/02/2013 22:08

Canterbury

HollaAtMeBaby · 28/02/2013 22:20

Ignore her. 2 months is nothing. And be sure to write in her leaving card "hope you get all the happiness and success you deserve!" with a big passive aggressive :)

hatgirl · 28/02/2013 23:04

Carlisle is definitely worse than Coventry. Just

Horsemad · 28/02/2013 23:12

Crewe would be better!

Bogeyface · 28/02/2013 23:47

Cardigan would be good, then you could give her one as a nice PA leaving gift!

PureQuintessence · 28/02/2013 23:49

Did you have to relocate for good to Coventry?

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Beaverfeaver · 28/02/2013 23:52

Er... No

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UnrequitedSkink · 01/03/2013 03:48

Shurrup, Carlisle is lovely!

Longdistance · 01/03/2013 03:55

Leave her to stew. Could be quite lonely for her. She'll probably leave soon anyway.

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