could you date someone who cant spell?

[oopsadaisymaisy]

I fully expect to need my hard hat, please don't be too harsh. I like someone, he's really sweet and he makes me laugh but he can't spell. We text each other a lot and I'm amazed at how poor his spelling is. I'm not talking the odd spelling mistake, I make them myself, I mean seriously bad spelling. It's not going to stop me seeing him but it does bother me a little bit.

[kinkyfuckery]

Do you know him outwith texting? Is he intelligent enough to have conversation with?

[coffeeinbed]

This is probably not the place to point out the misspelling in the OP?

[usualsuspect]

My do can't spell,doesn't bother me in the slightest.

[oopsadaisymaisy]

Ha ha, go for it. I'm on my phone apologies for any spelling mistakes. No, he's not my usual type at all but I do like him.

[shrimponastick]

I met my DH online. His spelling and punctuation were a factor in choosing him. ;)

[MadBusLady]

If I thought it was totally at odds with the rest of his personality (ie he was a highly intelligent person who happened to be dyslexic or similar), yes.

Otherwise no, I am a total snob about this stuff. It is a huge signifier to me of how thoughtful, intelligent and possibly even caring someone is.

[usualsuspect]

Dp* bloody auto correct

[oopsadaisymaisy]

Anyway, I'm not going to stop seeing him because he can't spell but I would like to be more tolerant. It does help knowing that it doesn't bother everyone.

[bruffin]

My dh can't spell probably diagnosed dyslexic.
Being able to spell has very little to do with intelligence as many dyslexic are highly intelligent.
It can being annoying to be asked howvto spell stuff all the time. My Ds has dyslexic problems as well so get asked a lot, but have been married 21 years it not really affected us.

[colditz]

Yes of course I would, but they would have to be intelligent enough to keep up with me because I dated a thicko once .... Never again.

[usualsuspect]

But then I'm not a snob.

[BertieBotts]

Nope. DP is dyslexic and his spelling is terrible but he's very intelligent and I can have challenging conversations with him.

However XP was not very bright and his spelling used to irk me, even though he couldn't help it - he was dyslexic too.

I know this is terrible I sometimes smile to myself too when DP takes 3 attempts to spell a word on draw something but then I have incredibly stupid moments which I'm sure he is equally privately amused by.

[dondon33]

So long as he could hold an intelligent conversation then yes. I don't see why not.

[frustratedworkingmum]

"I'm on my phone apologies for any spelling mistakes"................!!!!!!! Have you thought that maybe he is just that bothered about spell check? What does he do for a living? Is he thoughtful, considerate? Sexy? have a nice bum? All those things are more important that his spelling ability. At least i hope so, because my DD is dyslexic and at 6, really struggling, i think she gets it from my DP as he cannot spell for toffee - I'd hate to think that she would be judged as a potential partner in her future because she cant spell.

[BertieBotts]

It's stupid isn't it? Spelling really isn't anything to do with intelligence but we seem to link it subconsciously.

I think in actual fact it's something like a slight lisp or a wonky tooth or bad hair - would barely register if you like the person but if you don't then it becomes a source of irritation.

[noddyholder]

madbus how can you tell how caring someone is by their spelling ability

[oopsadaisymaisy]

Oh no, I was hoping I would meet with criticism rather than like minded spelling snobs. He's not very intelligent either but he's so cute. I don't know him well enough yet to make these judgements and I don't want to be a snob but I bloody am!

[frustratedworkingmum]

Actually, im probably being niave in thinking she wont be :( Not saying you are judging OP, but people will i guess. It breaks my heart

[usualsuspect]

My dp is probably dyslexic.He was probably labelled a thicko at school back in the day.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

The spelling wouldn't bother me so much as whether they could make intelligent conversation, have opinions, be witty, well-informed, interesting ... that kind of thing. If the spelling was rubbish and they were thick as two short planks as well... no thanks. Funnily enough one of my current b/fs is not gifted in the spelling dept but he's a very successful director of a multinational.

[frustratedworkingmum]

Well, if he isn't very intelligent but cute, just use him as a fuck buddy then move on when someone with a better vocabulary comes along!

[NoisesOff]

It would put me off a lot, unless it was due to dyslexia. But it's important to me to be with someone who cares about the written word. I met my husband through internet dating. His emails stood out for being articulate, witty and intelligent.

[MechanicalTheatre]

God no, this wouldn't bother me at all.

[frustratedworkingmum]

"Funnily enough one of my current b/fs is not gifted in the spelling department"...........

[oopsadaisymaisy]

Ok, got more criticism. I deserve it. I shouldn't judge but I do but I'm going to stop it. He's kind and very nice to me. My ex was highly intelligent and a complete knob. I'm lucky he likes me.