Very recently split from bf for nth time but this time probably for good.
I had been telling him for months to stop swearing at me and calling me names. But he just kept doing it. after he screamed at me 'never to cook this shit for him again' accused me of trying to make him fat and called me allsorts i told him it was over. we have split in past. last time fir about 6 weeks. when he came back told him it had to stop and we should go for counselling. he was contrite but no counselling.
Usually he walks out on me and then says I have to be nicer to him.
He seems totally bewildered that i have split with him. I kept saying that shouting abuse is not acceptable he gave me a list of things i had done wrong and told me he had played his part but i was in the wrong too. no actual apology or admission of how serious it is or offer to change.
So am not taking him back but should I for his sake tell him that this level of verbal abuse is not on and he should address his AM issues ( for his own sake, the kids and future gfs) or just leave it.
I think if i told him he is being abusive he'd either say I'm abusive or he'd be really upset.
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should I tell him he needs to sort it out. long.
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minkembra · 25/01/2013 23:41
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