Tonight I DH is out and I have been using the office to do some work. DH works from home, in the box room. He uses 2 computers for work. He is into his tech so we have other stuff e.g chargers for ipad etc and office equipment in there too (e.g printer/scanner machine, lamp etc). I have gone to plug something in tonight and found that he has plugged one multi point extension into another, and has added a multiplug into one of the extensions.So at some point he has had at least 9 plugs going into one socket, if not more. I know the number is not as relevant as the amps, but I have checked one of the computers and that alone is over 3. I am really annoyed about it and feel like he has put us at risk, but not sure if its a bit silly and I am being OTT?
To put it into context, things like this happen reasonably frequently. For example over Christmas he 'forgot' that we had reduced DD2
's movicol dose. She had just started to poo on the toilet for the first time (she is 4 in April) after a chronic problem with constipation. Since he inadvertently gave her the wrong dose a number of times (before I realised) she has completely stopped again, and she has reverted back to pooing in her pants and withholding until her night nappy is on.
To be fair to DH, he generally acknowledges my point-he doesn't belittle me or say I am OTT. But issues like the two above happen at least every couple of weeks. We go round in circles-I try to accept and move on, then something else like this happens. I am starting to feel hopeless. But maybe I am expecting too much and need to chill? I am finding it hard to work out whats 'normal' in a relationship. So I try not to stress about random stuff like feeding DD's odd combinations of food for tea (like missing carbs or veg) but I have lost confidence in knowing how much some other stuff matters. I am, of course, not perfect, and make mistakes, like missing DD's apt with the nurse last week. He never makes an issue about stuff like this.
In loads of ways DH is great. He adores the children, we both work part time and share childcare about 50/50. He is not critical or controlling-we share finances equally etc. But I just find that events like the plug one tonight and the movicol one happen with strange frequency.
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Is it reasonable to be annoyed by this kind of stuff or am I OTT?
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nomorelostweekends · 21/01/2013 22:38
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