I can't go any longer without getting this off my chest, and have no one in RL I feel I can share this with.
So, DH and I went on holiday last week and I developed the most enormous crush on a woman I met there (our guide, in fact). I did have a few female crushes when I was in my late teens, but have always felt entirely hetero as an adult. Tbh the fact that she's a woman is not what's freaking me out the most, it's the intensity. I've never had a crush like this in my life. I have no idea when or how it started - the first day she was just our guide, sometime on day two I realised I felt like I was totally and utterly in love with her. For every day after, just the sight of her or the sound of her voice could bring tears to my eyes or make me feel completely, totally happy. To me she was the most beatiful, mesmerising, magnificent, adorable person I've ever met.
I also fell in love with the place where we were and the two are inevitably inter-connected. She embodied the place, and a way of life. I've never met anyone like her before and she opened my eyes to a lot of things. Hell, I'd like to BE her. I was choking back tears on journey home and broke down when we got home. DH thinks it's because I hate where we live and our current lifestyle and missed where we were and can't see a way out (true) but mainly it was because I'll probably never see or speak to her again. All I want is to be around her. I've been internet stalking her today. All I can think about is going back (DH and I will anyway, but not for a while, and there'd be no guarantee I'd see her anyway).
I know I've just got to be a grown up and sit it out and wait for it to stop, but I don't even WANT it to stop, because she's made me feel things I've never felt in my life. The idea of not feeling like I do about her feels even worse than how I feel now. All I want to do is close my eyes and visualise her because I never want to forget her.
I'm going to make some serious changes to how I live my life, thanks to her, and at the moment it's taking all my energy force myself not to embarass myself by contacting her to tell her that.
Oh FFS just shoot me now. It's ridiculous.
(I've had my fair share of holiday romances, btw, and this wasn't even that kind of hot, exotic holiday. It was a winter trip in northern europe ffs.)
Sorry, really really needed to just put that out there.
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brownbearsleeping · 19/01/2013 23:57
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