Hello everyone, I know my story isn't unique but I feel so trapped. I am not married and have a teenage girl with my partner. He has never been that interested in sex (with me) - there was little before the pregnancy, none during, now it's worse than ever (once last year), however 5 yrs ago I found out that he had been having an affair, which he lied about and has never really discussed. He ended it immediately, went to counselling for a long time, made a lot of promises which he hasn't kept. Just before Christmas I said that this sexless relationship was not viable and unless we did something to change it, it would never happen. Hesaid he would and a few times touched me sexually/affectionately but nothing more - I didn't particularly encourage him to do more as all times were in the morning, when our daughter was up and about, which I have told him I find non-intimate and I suspect he prefers this when he knows it will be got over quickly :(....anyway Christmas is over, I feel like shit, there has been no sex, he is lieing here snoring like a pig, I feel past it, rejected, hopeless and trapped.
We are not married,he has always refused to leave. Tells me I can go if I want to. I am not leaving my daughter and anyway I don't see why I should leave my home, when I have done nothing wrong. I actually feel almost suicidal at times. I have a full-time job and own half the house. But he refuses to leave. I went to see a solicitor 2 yrs ago who wrote to him saying I wanted to speaarte but he then asked me to go back to counselling and again theer is no change.
Sorry this is so long and moany. I am under so much pressure trying to protect my daughter from all this but she regularly asks me why I am 'sad'.
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Notinchelse · 03/01/2013 01:57
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