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Relationships

what do you call the person the you are still married to but no longer with? ex?

18 replies

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 16:29

is he my ex dh? even though we're not divorced?

am over thinking this but................

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raspberryroop · 02/12/2012 16:33

estranged

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 16:33

ahh, thankyou.

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FaffTastic · 02/12/2012 16:35

I'm in the same situation and I just refer to him as my ex-husband. I try not to refer or speak about him at all though tbh!

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 16:36

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44SoStartingOver · 02/12/2012 16:37

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Doha · 02/12/2012 16:41

Twat turd wanker

just a few suggestions

Llareggub · 02/12/2012 16:47

I usually say "my ex" or hiss his name, depending on how I am feeling.

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 16:48

at the moment we're still being polite but i'll keep these suggestions in mind

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foolonthehill · 02/12/2012 16:53

on MN it's STBX (soon to be ex) but everywhere else it's separated husband or the children's dad for me...though to be honest I avoid mentioning him at all unless it's really necessary!

Apparently he still wants the Christmas cards to be signed from all of us though ...guess whose writing them (as ever), guess who's not going to be mentioned on them!

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 16:58

fool- i had to quickly write some christmas cards yesterday. it was really odd.

that sounds good- childrens dad.

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akaemmafrost · 02/12/2012 16:59

Kids Dad, that's what he's in my phone as well.

fortyplus · 02/12/2012 17:02

Me too... he's not 'ex husband' until you're divorced. You still have a husband so you can't marry someone else. We've been together 27 years so 'children's dad' would seem rather remote.

How I refer to him would depend on who's asking. I'd probably say 'my husband' but add 'although we're separated'.

I don't bear him any malice and have no wish to marry anyone else

Llareggub · 02/12/2012 17:06

Well, I do have a new man in my life so I try to avoid talking about "my husband" as it feels a little odd.

madasa · 02/12/2012 17:09

Work no in my book under SFB aka Shit For Brains
Home no in my book under WSD aka Walking Sperm Donor

Narked · 02/12/2012 17:13

I'd say ex and add husband to that when the divorce comes through.

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 18:43

thankyou

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skyebluesapphire · 02/12/2012 19:01

Twunt is a commonly used phrase... I referred to mine as STBXH on MN. Now he actually is XH. In my phone he is twunt. I may have to change that when DD learns how to read

i just called him the ex, to people as thats what he was , could have been ex H, ex P, ex anything...

cheesesarnie · 02/12/2012 19:54

. ex sounds perfect. twunt is being saved incase he decides to behave like one

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