Been together 16 years. 1 DD aged 3 and I'm nearly 8 months pregnant with our second.
I'm not sure if he ever wanted children. I managed to persuade him to have our daughter. He became quite distant during that pregnancy, going out all the time, not really interested until she was born. Since she's arrived he's been a doting father but says he wonders what his life would have been like without children.
It took me nearly 3 years to persuade him to try for another. Two miscarriages later, I finally became pregnant but our relationship went downhill while we were trying.
During this pregnancy, he's suffered from depression. Currently on anti-depressants, lost a lot of weight, seeing a counsellor.
A couple of months ago, he rented a place and moved out. He still comes home to see our daughter, stays for a brief chat after she goes to bed and then leaves every night.
He says he feels like he can't be in a relationship right now and needs to be on his own. I know there's no one else.
He says he's planning to come home once I reach full term and thinks the baby might actually bring us back together but I'm not so sure.
His counsellor says he's having an identity crisis due to always trying to go along with what everyone else wanted him to do.
It sounds fairly similar to a mid-life crisis from what I've read up on.
Has anyone been through something similar and come out the the other end? Any advice appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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Advice needed on OH's identity crisis
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LucyLocketX · 09/11/2012 18:02
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