...I never want them in my house again!
During their latest visit they said:
"DD isn't upset, she is putting it on" whilst 18 week old DD is red as a beetroot with tears streaming down her face.
"Your brother was always much more intelligent and his parenting skills are markedly better" to DP whose brother doesn't even have children or a full time job.
"You are overstimulating DD by taking her to so many activities" she does baby yoga once a week and we swim as a family once a week.
"DD's educational ability will suffer if we don't bring her up bi-lingual" my english MIL wants DD to speak Welsh even though neither myself or DP speak Welsh.
"We gave DP so much brandy as a baby he used to get excited when the bottle came out. You should do the same with DD when she is naughty like she was tonight" WTAF?!!
"Are you still a general doctor?" DP replied "No mum, I have been a cardiologist for nearly 2 years"
DP is hurt and upset by their criticism, especially of his parenting skills. FWIW he is fantastic father and the most kind and gentle person I have ever met.
I am angry that they felt it was okay to come into our home and say these things and I wanted to ask them to apologise to DP for hurting his feelings.
I've left out the bits where FIL criticised my nationality and where MIL made rude comments about autism then asked me "what my problem was" when I said it was a very cruel thing to say.
They have form for behaving like this, from criticising the fact we shouldnt have a child out of wedlock to turning up uninvited after I gave birth to DD (difficult birth and we had asked for a couple days of no visitors)
Please can someone offer some advice, I know what I feel like doing but I have to remember they are DP's parents.
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Please help me with my ILs...
Paintyourbox · 01/11/2012 10:51
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