Bit of Background : my DH and I have been under a lot of stress lately, 2 young kids, stressful jobs and house move. Owing to this and the fact that i'm very shy in relation to all aspects of the bedroom (DH is first and only guy i ever slept with), we haven't had much action recently. When we have, i noticed the past couple of times that he is quite happy for himself to be satisfied and then falls asleep. At the weekend i decided to make an effort and try initiate sex (which does not happen a lot owing to my shyness)...he seemed very up for it (and surprised i guess) and he seemed to 'enjoy' himself. However, instead of any reciprocation, he just started on the full act itself without any 'warm up' on my part. I'm so annoyed (and frustrated), cos it made me feel just like a doll, with no needs of my own. Problem is, i'm so shy in areas like this, i have no idea how to broach this or what to say. I feel hurt and annoyed but worry that i'm just over reacting owing to recent stresses. He knows something is wrong, says i've been distant, but hasn't tried to find out what is wrong...Listen to me, you'd think i was some young girl rather than a woman in her thirties. Anyway, not sure what i expect, but felt good just getting this off my chest, and apologies if too much information.
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aawcmon · 29/10/2012 12:53
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