This is for a friend (yes I know that's what a troll would say etc), but she's a regular MNer who is really wrung out. She just said that she wanted to know what MN might say, but just couldn't find the energy to post... so I said I'd do it for her. I probably can't answer any questions about the detail, but maybe she'll pop up when she's feeling stronger & hopefully encouraged.
She's just initiated divorce proceedings, having seen a solicitor earlier this week. Her partner has been in her life for most of her adult life and they have DCs together. She's been increasingly unhappy over the last few years, but lately has got to the point where she never goes out and her life has basically become work, housework, and being a mum. She's lost confidence in herself and feels that he plays on this and is cruel about her. I think it's given him a shock that she's initiated this, as he perhaps thought that he was the one in charge.
I'm not sure what MNers can do with this second-hand info, but I think she'd really like to hear from anyone who knows what it's like to go through those first difficult weeks when it's become apparent that it's definitely over, but lots of details and practicalities need straightening out.
Help her to hold her courage please, everyone, she is too emotional and tired to post right now, but she will be reading, so all messages, opinions and "I've been there"-s will help her to feel less alone and confused...
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Divorce initiated - hand-holding needed
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NameChangingNelly · 25/10/2012 19:38
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