I have been dating a guy since July who is 11 years younger than me. I am 45 and he is 34. I have 4 children (21, 19, 16, 14) he has 2, (4 and 2). He is separated and I am long since divorced.
Our lives apart from the above are pretty much parallel. Values, morals, way of living, interests all similar and in terms of compatibility and intelligence we get along famously. My children have no isses whatosever and relate to him very well. As yet his children remain out of the equation due to issues with his ex and the fact they are so young.
I pretty much leave it to him to decide the pace of the relationship. He has much more at stake than I and there are a couple of issues on his side. His family have decided not to like me (not met me) ergo it has become easier to keep it quiet. Also his marriage only broke down at the beginning of this year and he is mindful of how it affects his children. He wants to take things slowly and quietly (no problem for me) but then when he has had a few to drink tells mutual friends he is seeing me (again no problem for me) but a contradiction. When I bring it up he apologises and it is left. Ftr no apology is necessary and he knows this.
My insecurities take me down the road of I am so much older. Not sure I understand why he is attracted to me (his ex wife 10 years his junior so throws me completely). Perhaps I am too hung up on age but certainly I am vastly different from a 24 year old.
I have very strong feelings for him which I am attempting to keep under wraps. However he is no idiot and I am sure he is aware. I dont feel able to share how I feel right now because of all of the above. Back to the age thing (which he claims is no problem whatsoever for him) I worry, if our relationship continues, how that 11 year age gap will be in the future.
I will be glad to hear any thoughts...
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Age gap? At what point is it an issue? Or become one?
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RocketSalad · 22/10/2012 12:36
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