I have name changed for this and also not to sure if I'm posting in the right section but hopeful that some of you lovely ladies can offer some wisdom.
I have been in a relationship with my partner for over 3 years now and we get on very well and both agree that we have a great relationship. However recently our sex drives just don't match up at all.
In the early stage of our relationship we were all over each other, like horny teenagers! And I loved it. We always managed to make time for sex. I know everybody has a honeymoon phase but I have been very happy with our sex life until quite recently, just about the past 6 months.
Our sex life suddenly dropped off to about once a fortnight, longer at some points. Me and DP have spoken about it and he says he just doesn't have the same libido as he used to and that he would be happy with about once a week (I don't know if it's relevant but he doesn't masturbate either and never really has during the 3 years we have been together). I have told him that really once a week is not enough for me and he has said we can try more often, but I feel bad wanting it if he doesn't. I've always been the one to instigate sex and don't want to be a raging sex pest if he's not in the mood!
I don't know if age is relevant to this but we are both in our mid 20's.
I have asked him if it is anything about me and he says its not and that he still finds me attractive. I haven't suddenly gained a lot of weight and nothing in our life has changed that I could really see affecting it, no extra stress etc. We do talk very openly and he says he honestly can't think of any reasons for it.
So what I'm asking really is, do you think this is normal? Is it something that we will just have to meet in the middle with?
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onceisneverenough · 20/10/2012 19:48
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