That's it really. H has had an affair - more sort of trapped by someone he felt sorry for - but I don't really care about the excuses cos I found out and he still got back in contact when he told me he hadn't heard from her. She kept demanding expensive presents, but the twat bought her what she wanted (even if it was a knock off that cost £18.99 rather than the £300 belly button thing she wanted - he thought that was progress!) Basically he did what she wanted because she told him she had to have counselling for violence, he'd given her a key to his house to escape her "abusive husband" and he thought she might trash the place.
I can't imagine trusting him again - I feel sorry for him as a human being, and he is still in the house (we farm so can't do everything on my own) and we are getting on ok as housemates - I just feel incredibly, incredibly sad that he is such a pathetic idiot and has trashed my hopes and DD's happy family.
OW is a complete tart (judging by her FB page), and gets to keep her normal life by lying like crazy to her husband. She spoke to me on the phone and asked me not to tell her husband, and she would keep away from mine - well she didn't. After she also had the cheek to tell me I was being difficult because I wanted a divorce and her husband might find out she was the reason - I why did I feel I had the right to make things difficult for her. Then says my DH was pursuing her like crazy - but I've got the messages that prove he wasn't - that he went along with everything, but she instigated it. I hate her so much because she told my DH in a letter that it was his choice whether we had another baby, not hers or mine. Crazy how one thing really presses by buttons - and the fact that DH never told her to get her nose out of our business.
I guess I am hoping we can stay friends for DD's sake, and would like to be able to share milestones for her sake, rather than everything having to be separate. I don't know how I would feel though if he got another woman as slutty as the one who he knew from school. Just looking for advice really, as don't know what to do for the best.
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Has anyone managed to stay good friends and do activities with the kids after divorce?
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ickywickyyicky · 17/10/2012 11:30
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