She has not been on so much as a single date with anyone else since she split from him 5 years ago. I have heard this from numerous sources including some of closest friends who are mutual friends of mine. They were together for 3 years and split up due to him moving country (his choice, she still thought it could work) in that time he has divulged things such as she has been to therapists to deal with their break up and even tried to "cast spells" on women she knew he saw after her by writing down their names, wrapping them up and burying them... I kid you not, he told me that she confessed this to him over coffee whilst in floods of tears. Out of the blue, he decided that he wanted to add her again as a friend on Facebook last November after all this time which I said I was OK with. After all, I didn't want there to be any sort of animosity or awkwardness and we are all still in the same friendship group. Now for the first time in years she has texted him happy birthday- he did not even know how she obtained his number as he has since changed it after they split. When I first met her, she blanked me upon greeting then proceeded to quite obviously stare at me throughout the entire evening from the next table (we were a large group at a bar). The first thing she asked him was how was he and was he planning on moving back! I wasn't really fine with them chatting and had a knot in my stomach the whole evening, but I tried to let it go. On the second occasion when I said hello she half grimaced/smirked at me- not really sure how to explain it(!) but even OH asked if I was OK after that and friends made comments as to why she was so outwardly rude to me. She and a female friend spent the whole day (it was a friend's birthday garden party) looking at me and whispering behind hands (I kid you not, and they are both nearly 30) and mysteriously popping up near wherever he and I wandered off to at the party. I have now heard she frequently asks about him and I and has even been saying rude things about me to mutual friends! I feel like I cannot be happy with him even though he is so perfect and even though we have both discussed marriage and children I don't feel totally secure because of his psychotic ex casting a "shadow" almost over our relationship. I know I'm pathetic for not being strong and rising above it all and that she would be getting what she wanted by this causing tension between me and my OH but how would you deal with this?
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Should I be worried about my OH's psychotic ex?
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klapaucius · 15/10/2012 23:33
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