She's went from party animal to recluse in 18 months. But it's more than that (she needed to slow down she had no one left to party with as the rest of us are married/babies etc).
She met him 2 years ago. A little over a year after splitting up with her dh and moving back to the area we all grew up and still live around. We are relatively young (28) and we (group of friends) supported her with the end of her marriage as best we could. She's always been quite a closed book when it comes to serious stuff. Like we didn't know her marriage was breaking down until she arrived back 'home' and even then it took a long time to get the story out of her.
So she has a blow out, went out lots, slept around a bit and found a new place to live and got a new job. It was like she had got all that out her system and was calming down a bit. Then she met this new man. She was practically living with him very quickly. We met him a parties and he seemed ok.
We've all been through it, and we're all old enough, to realise when a new man is about its natural, to a certain extent, for someone to spend less time with friends. But as I said before we're all busy people we're not out every weekend anymore but all keep up with each other.
There's been a few alarm bells ringing.
We went on a girly weekend, she was texting him constantly and he'd phone her all the time to the point she was taking hushed phone calls from him at 3a.m.
She's more introverted than I've ever seen her. Before, even when she was married, she would answer to no body. If she was wanting to do something she done it. Now she takes ages to respond to texts, is cagey on the phone and is still always on the phone to him if we are out.
I met her for lunch one day and he turned up out of the blue.
As a group we've always just socialised as 'the girls'. Our partners all get on, on an as and when needed to basis but they don't seek out each other's company. We don't get together that often we don't want the men lurking about cramping our style! She is always trying to organise couple things. I understand she wants everyone to get to know him and we (dh and I) have made the effort but I get the feelin that he doesn't like her meeting us on her own.
At a recent wedding she had to phone the bride and ask if her dp's son could come. He's 6 and it wasn't an issue it was just weird. His mum takes the boy most weekend's. When I asked friend if they were having baby sitting problems she just said 'it's complicated'. I just interpreted it as him trying to put a damper on her night. Every time she got up to dance he sent the boy up to ask her something like go to the bar or dad's wondering where your purse is. Total nonsense things.
It's hard to put my finger on, I just think something isn't right but don't know how to go about checking she's old
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MrsKeithRichards · 14/10/2012 10:54
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