Sorry this might be long but want to try and avoid drip feeding.
On Tuesday night Dp had a bit of a chat with me about how he is sick of his life. He hates his work and feels that he can't afford to do anything else (I'm at university doing nursing). He could go for a different job even if it meant him taking a pay cut. I get a good bursary because it's a nursing course and we would just have to manage. He disagrees with this.
He has our 1yo ds on his two days off through the week (he works weekends and I'm at uni) so he 'doesn't get a break'. Quite frankly this is bullshit. He doesn't start work until late afternoon on a Friday and ds is at nursery all day, same on a Sunday except I take ds to visit my very sick grandpa so he can get a bit of time to himself. He also has at least one night out a week but claims that I moan at him about this. The only thing I do is ask him not to get blitzed if he has ds the next day. I learned very early on that me asking him to stay in/going in a mood with him or anything else didn't work and he was going to do it anyway so now I don't waste my breath.
He says he wants to do what he wants, when he wants without having to worry about what I think or about ds. Also, that I moan too much. I might do but everything in the house is left to me. He literally does nothing. I come into a scene from Kim and Aggy when he's been in all day and I tidy up. Every week for me is uni all day Monday-Wednesday then Thursday I have ds all day and take him to my parents, uni all day Friday then at the weekend I have ds, have to catch up on household things, visit family and catch up on uni work. Bearing in mind that I have a lot of studying to do and essays to write when he goes to bed through the week. My last night out was in May and I can't even remember the last time I had a morning/afternoon to myself.
I've tried to chat with him before but he never listens. Tuesday was the first time he spoke to me and basically just detailed how much of a burden me and ds apparently are. I had no idea he felt like his. In fact his life seems to be pretty great, to me anyway.
Is he right?
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ellathefox · 11/10/2012 12:54
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