I need to get this off my chest.
I have dd 9 yrs old and ds 4 months. Dh and I just keep arguing all the fucking time lately and I'm worn out.
Last nights one was because he tried to put ds down to bed but ds was getting very upset (something unusual as he never normally cries at all) so I went up to see if there was anything I could do and to find out whats wrong and he said he feels I am undermining him. I picked ds up myself and as I did he let out a massive burp so that's probably what was wrong. Or it could be that he's just used to me putting him to bed.
With hindsight I should have let dh deal with it but it's really hard to be sat downstairs hearing your baby cry and not want to go to them :( even if you know your dh is with them. He is a very caring loving father but I just feel if I go and cuddle ds he would fall asleep - which he did. However I feel I am making a rod for my own back.
So we had a row when the children were in bed. He feels I don't trust him as a parent. Dd is mine from a previous relationship by the way.
I think a lot of it is that ds is waking up once a night and early in the morning so I am very tired and going to bed every night at 9 or 10 ish. We have no time together and time we do get I just want to read or go on here as its relaxing and I have no time to myself as it is. Dh feels I put him bottom of the list and perhaps that's true a bit but I'm shattered !!!
He would help in the night but ds doesn't settle as well for him and I don't have the heart to leave them to it. Sometimes we do take turns at lie ins on the weekend but to be honest I find it hard to sleep late anyway so I always get up with ds.
We have had sex a few times since ds but I really don't have the energy or inclination.
I realise dh is getting more and more annoyed with me but I feel under pressure to talk and chat every night and whatever else and I just don't want to ... I'm fucking knackered I just want everyone to leave me alone !!!
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i haven't got the energy .. just totally fed up.
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Fairylea · 07/10/2012 07:35
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