I have met a lovely man (internet dating) and have very rapidly started to establish a really good relationship with him. We spend most of every weekend together and meet up at least once during the week.
I have been divorced for 4 years, he has been properly separated for 3 years (didn't have normal marital relationship for 14 years).
He has frequently mentioned our future together and seems totally devoted. He is very attentive and says he is in love with me (because of the way we met, we were able to find out a lot about eachother and we knew we were both looking for a serious relationship). He has introduced me to his brother (with whom he is quite close), I have been to dinner at his sister in law's and he is taking me to visit another relative next weekend. He has met my DD no 2 and her boyfriend and I was planning to introduce him to DD no 1 when she is next in town.
When I meet up with him, it is always at my flat (my DDs, who are 25 and 27, do not live with me) or we go out to a restaurant or gallery or a country walk. I have been to his house only once. He seems really scared about introducing me to his 2 DDs, one of whom is 19 (away at uni now) and the other who is 25 (living at home). I would never say this to him, but he seems to be a bit of a "doormat" to the DDs and they sound as though they (and their Mother before she left) treat him like sh*t.They leave the house in a mess (he is very domesticated), they usually ignore any food he makes for them, they borrow money from him, his DD no 2 left for uni without saying goodbye to him.
I know the relationship is still fairly new, but everything is so good in every other way and I am starting to get edgy about not being introduced. Does his reluctance mean that he is not as serious about me as he seems to be? Am I rushing things? Is he a man or a mouse? Am I getting worked up.over nothing? I so much want the relationship to work and I am aware that getting along with his DDs will be essential if we are to.go on long term (as it is for me with my DDs), but I have already made the effort to set up an easy situation for him to meet my DD no 2 whereas he hasn't even spoken.about me to.his DDs (they don't speak much at all, from what he tells me). Advice please.....
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meeting the new man's two grown up DDs
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friendlyanimal · 01/10/2012 03:10
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