This is a long one! I'm 27 expecting my dc1 in April, it must be because I'm having my own that I'm struggling with my relationship with my mother.
My mum was with my step-dad who emotionally and sometimes physically bullied me she knew all of this and her reasoning for letting it happen was that 1day I would leave and she didn't want to end up on her own. She had 2dc with him who he treated completely different. I hated my childhood I hate thinking about it. My dad fought for custody of me, but my mum moved us and changed my name without him knowing. I'm now back in touch with him but its not the same. My mum and step dad eventually split.
The reason im bothered by it again is she's moving house and told me she has some of my stuff from when I was a kid, I went to pick it up and it was 1 box. Mainly story books 1 fucking box, I felt like the kid that never was, there was so much of my ds and db stuff (who I get on really well with both)
When she was young she had a bad accident and I'm sure it's left her socially/emotionally inept, when I bring any of the past up she either pretends she can't remember, blanks the subject completely or moans she had it bad too.
The thing I'm struggling with is I know I will NEVER get closure or answers. She's not a horrible person, if I asked if she would do me a favour she would she's just incredibly selfish.
I've paid for so much with my ds and db for uni driving lessons etc because she's so shit.
I just don't understand how you can be like that with your kids. She doesn't know im pregnant yet.
Jeez this is a long post-not even half of it!!!
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I just don't understand her
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plannedshock · 23/09/2012 21:32
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