...completely and utterly fucked off would be a truer description of my feelings about now.
Basically, everything that could go wrong has gone wrong this summer. A lot of it is inconsequential inconveniences more than anything else but I have just about had enough right about now.
Firstly, when I first separated from my STBXH, he would have the children for a few hours on a Sunday, this developed into Saturday night to Sunday and then when his new partner came on the scene he asked if they could do every other weekend as she has a child also. I agreed to this, no problem, says I, I except every other weekend is now whichever weekend they can be bothered to do it.
For example, in July he cancelled a weekend because he booked to work instead and then went on holiday which overlapped with his other weekend. Then in August he was ill (he did got to hospital and was out of action for ten days with pancreatitis) however he cancelled the holiday that he had arranged for the children (to re-book a holiday three weeks later with this partner, no kids). The upshot is that he will have had the kids for one full weekend and one night from the beginning of July until the end of September.
I am going to University in September and I asked him to confirm the alternate weekends that he can do between now and Christmas as I have to book my placements (NHS shift work) and in November he can't do one weekend because it is his girlfriends birthday which means he won't see the children between the 11th November and 9th December.
I have tried to reason with him that if he can't do a given weekend then he needs to make up the time as if he misses one weekend then he doesn't see the children for a month but there is no reasoning with him because he is an arse.
This, coupled with the fact that he has been to the Phillipines, been to Majorca twice, he has had three holidays this year so far and each holiday has been immediately prior to a school holiday (he went to the Phillipines immediately prior to the February school holiday and on Majorca before they broke for the summer and he is going on holiday again jsut before we come back in September) therefore he can't take time off of work to look after the children in the school holidays and he extends the periods of no visitation by going away immediately before or after we go away) he has also bought a new car and claims poverty despite being dressed head to toe in designer clothes has made me flip. Today I rang my Solicitor and she has said that she will refer us to mediation because he is being unreasonable.
That aside, I was meant to go on holiday myself at the end of July but could not go because I lost my sons passport. This all tied in with me having building work done and I went to a friends house for a week, have come back, my roof is now leaking, I have spent £300 on a new passport and transferring my flights. I have literally had my kids on my own for the whole holidays and am soooooo tired and utterly skint, I just want to give him (STBXH) a high five in the face with a mallet.
Anyway, long and boring it is, but I had to get that off my chest, thanks for listeining folks :)
Oh, and I asked him to confirm dates so I can book placement shifts but I can arrange childcare, I just feel so sad that he doesn't give much of a shit about our kids and doesn't feel like he should make up the time he misses with them because he is either on holiday or celebrating his girlfriends birthday, FFS he flew out to Majorca on his daughter s birthday - he is such a COCK!
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saggyhairyarse · 24/08/2012 22:26
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