I've been with my partner for almost 3 years. Never really been 100% happy but plodded along with it because we like the same sort of stuff. Country walks, gigs etc - we were good company for each other.
But I don't fancy him and it's getting harder and harder to pretend. He's overweight, dresses really scruffy and never makes an effort. He has no ambition, works for minimum wage and instead of making the effort to find a better job, he sits there trying to work out what benefits he can claim to get more money.
We don't live together and probably never would.
I've been wanting to break up for ages but can never bring myself to do it, I feel too guilty as he's always arranging stuff for us to do, horse trekking, shows, meals out etc and everytime I work myself up to tell him, he suprises me with something and I feel too guilty. I stupidly believed I'd never meet anyone else anyway so it would be easy just to "make do" and plod along with this joke of a relationsip.
However I have recently met someone. We've been out for a few drinks and he's taking me for a meal at the weekend. We have not slept together so technically, I have not "yet" cheated but I can so see it going that way and I feel sick with guilt.
I tried to tell him tonight but he started going on about how he's booked a steam train thing for us and how excited he is and I just couldn't do it.
How do I break it to him without being a cow?
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Started seeing someone else :-(
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Zanshins · 17/07/2012 23:09
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