I feel like twatting him!!!

[dondon33]

DP is usually such a good lad lol
Today he tells me that last time he spoke to one of his good friends (female) he told her I was jealous of her?!?!
Little bit of background.....
This woman had been a friend for a long time, at some point, a good few years ago, they decided to be FWB one time. DP states (I won't divulge exactly what he said as it's not really nice) that it wasn't for him and not to repeat again, he realised he made a big mistake, blamed alcohol, heat of the moment. He maintained a platonic relationship while she wanted more.
Anyway....he was always honest about this and I honestly had no problem with it..we've all made mistakes/errors of judgement. However, I have, under the influence of alcohol, said that I felt he used her (she had feelings for him at that time and he didn't/refused/ignored to see them) His own friends said the same and worse to him. He has said some (not nice) stuff to me about her when we've previously argued that has resulted in me saying that although I think she has a lovely body, maybe is a beautiful person inside...she is lacking in the looks dept (believe me I'm no supermodel) it just came out but it's the truth. He admits himself that she's no oil painting (this is part of what I don't understand, he said it=fine..I say it and I'm jealous??) and he took the chance for sex after quite a long drought. (again no probs..he's human) However, I don't understand why he thinks its a jealousy thing, from my POV it's honestly not. I believe that he doesn't want to be with her, he doesn't think nothing about her other than a friend, I honestly don't spare any time thinking about them together, I'm cool with it FFS we all have history. I've even spoken with her by txt and I encourage their friendship. I've tried to explain that I wouldn't do that if I was jealous.
BUT.... Why am I pissed off with him for telling her that (I can't explain it but I literally want to punch him in the head, I wouldn't of course but feel like it lol )...we've both had a few too many tonight, although we're not at the point of oblivion, he just won't answer my question "why would you say something like that?"
I'm just getting "because you are" ....Really what I want is some advice/insight as to why he would tell her that....Does it make him feel good? Does he actually want to make her jealous? (she was when we started but she has a bf now and seems happy) could that be why?
Come on wise women (and men) of MN, speak to me. xxx

[stainesmassif]

Yes. Because it makes him feel good and he was being a dick.

[Teansympathy]

Ditto makes him feel in control

[FlatCapAndAWhippet]

Bigging up his ego.

[Lueji]

For the same reason he took advantage of her feelings.

Have you thought about what he tells her about you? (in addition to the jealousy)?

It seems that he wants you to be jealous of him, and it pleases him having two women pinning for him.

Not only that but he is already playing with your mind. Telling you how you feel.

I'd seriously take a back step and look for more red flags that you might be missing ATM because you are in love.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

I think he sounds vile. Why is there so much discussion of this woman between you?

He is stroking his own ego here, which is a v.unattractive quality IMO.

[JustFabulous]

Both of you sound unpleasant tbh and if you are not jealous of her, why are you being so bitchy about her?

He is a dick.

[AThingInYourLife]

He does not have a high opinion of women, does he?

Time for the boot!

[Redknickerswillstoptrains]

He is making himself feel superior ,and you are totally buying into it by being horrible about the poor girl.

Leave her alone ,tell him to grow up and then you can both go and find something more important to worry about.

[MadAboutHotChoc]

He sounds nasty - judging her on her looks

I would be very wary - it sounds like he might be worming his way back into her bed or why else drop hints like these.

[squeakytoy]

The whole posts reads like some rambling drunken irrational waffle, with no thought process at all..

I think you do sound jealous.

[AnyFucker]

You both sound a bit nasty, tbh

Let's hope when you read that back this morning you will have a "wtf was I on about?" moment

[AlmostAHipster]

You both sound like a pair of bitches. Grow up and leave this woman alone!

[Dahlen]

Personally, I think you'd both be better off ditching him.

So he's been unfaithful with this woman, slags her off, gets you to too, and then accuses you of jealousy? Nice!

[MadAboutHotChoc]

Just re read your OP (which is a bit rambling) and you sound nasty as well.

[SoleSource]

You're both vile.

[dondon33]

Ego boost and wanting me to be jealous is what I felt.

No he wasn't unfaithful with her, they were both single at the time.

I don't believe for one minute he wants anything from her.

It kind of was a drunken waffle from me but I wanted to know if I was justified in being angry about the situation. (not just because I was under the influence as I still feel the same sober)

I didn't intend it to sound as if we both sit here or have nothing better to do than slate the girl, that's not the case at all. What has been said previously wasn't about being bitchy or nasty, I stated the truth from my opinion, that's all.

Previously he hasn't given me any reason to feel like this but as he still doesn't completely "get" why I was pissed off with him about what he said, obviously something needs working on.

Thank you for all replies x

[AnyFucker]

How's the head ?

[dondon33]

Was fine AF :) Didn't drink enough for a hangover x

[AnyFucker]